Comments on: Ask Hal – How My Ex Treats Our Child http://parenting.eharmony.com/2007/06/ah-ex-and-child/ eHarmony Parenting offers free a free parenting newsletter, parenting help, tips, advice, guidance, support and resources Thu, 15 May 2008 21:56:57 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: X http://parenting.eharmony.com/2007/06/ah-ex-and-child/comment-page-1/#comment-347 X Fri, 19 Oct 2007 01:32:12 +0000 http://parenting.eharmony.com/2007/06/ah-ex-and-child/#comment-347 Who's to say the kid is not a spoiled Princess? And who is to say the girlfriend didn't buy the father a car on his birthday? I am a woman on the other end of all this nonsense and I have to tell you that children from split families can sometimes be "greedy and manipulating" and work the situation ...especially when we are talking about an older teen! Who’s to say the kid is not a spoiled Princess? And who is to say the girlfriend didn’t buy the father a car on his birthday? I am a woman on the other end of all this nonsense and I have to tell you that children from split families can sometimes be “greedy and manipulating” and work the situation …especially when we are talking about an older teen!

]]> By: Amanda http://parenting.eharmony.com/2007/06/ah-ex-and-child/comment-page-1/#comment-138 Amanda Tue, 11 Sep 2007 17:48:30 +0000 http://parenting.eharmony.com/2007/06/ah-ex-and-child/#comment-138 Let's face it; sometimes our exes can just be big ol' jerks! (men and women) \ I experience what I call "detox" each time my daughter comes home after time with her dad. He was always miserable and treated us badly, the best thing I could have done was leave and provide her with a safe, healthy environment in which to grow. He obviously does not see it that way - tells her that I am a liar, and that I choose to be with others over her. I have asked him to stop manipulating her, and that it is hurting her to be put in the middle. One day when he dropped her off, she said, "I don't know if I should trust you or dad." It took incredible self-control, but I replied, "Honey, you should be able to trust both of us." And he overheard that, which seems to have sunk in. It is really something you have to take a day at a time - just keep putting one foot in front of the other. I pray ALOT and thank the Lord for getting us this far. I know His strength is sufficient for the rest of our journey. Let’s face it; sometimes our exes can just be big ol’ jerks! (men and women) \ I experience what I call “detox” each time my daughter comes home after time with her dad. He was always miserable and treated us badly, the best thing I could have done was leave and provide her with a safe, healthy environment in which to grow. He obviously does not see it that way – tells her that I am a liar, and that I choose to be with others over her. I have asked him to stop manipulating her, and that it is hurting her to be put in the middle.

One day when he dropped her off, she said, “I don’t know if I should trust you or dad.” It took incredible self-control, but I replied, “Honey, you should be able to trust both of us.” And he overheard that, which seems to have sunk in. It is really something you have to take a day at a time – just keep putting one foot in front of the other.

I pray ALOT and thank the Lord for getting us this far. I know His strength is sufficient for the rest of our journey.

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