http://parenting.eharmony.com/2007/06/a-battle-with-a-five-year-old/ eHarmony Parenting offers free a free parenting newsletter, parenting help, tips, advice, guidance, support and resources Thu, 15 May 2008 21:56:57 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 http://parenting.eharmony.com/2007/06/a-battle-with-a-five-year-old/comment-page-1/#comment-343 Jenny Thu, 18 Oct 2007 16:56:06 +0000 http://parenting.eharmony.com/2007/06/a-battle-with-a-five-year-old/#comment-343 I am having a similar situation with my five year old. I've tried to compromise with him when he gets going, but nothing seems to work. I'm not bribing him, but we try to find even ground and go from there. He does get physical sometimes, poking me, punching me in the back of the head when I pick him up to take him to his room, screaming at me, pulling my clothes when I set him on his bed...I could go on and on. I'm at a complete loss. I do pay attention to him, but not when he behaves in an unacceptable way. We go outside and play soccer, we make cookies, he helps me cook dinner and we read together. Now, mind you, I have another child who is younger and needs my attention, too. When I am not paying any attention to my son (well, I am paying attention, just not like he wants me to) he becomes irritated and bossy. He also interupts my husband and I as soon as we start talking. What am I not doing? Or what am I doing too much of? I am having a similar situation with my five year old. I’ve tried to compromise with him when he gets going, but nothing seems to work. I’m not bribing him, but we try to find even ground and go from there. He does get physical sometimes, poking me, punching me in the back of the head when I pick him up to take him to his room, screaming at me, pulling my clothes when I set him on his bed…I could go on and on. I’m at a complete loss. I do pay attention to him, but not when he behaves in an unacceptable way. We go outside and play soccer, we make cookies, he helps me cook dinner and we read together. Now, mind you, I have another child who is younger and needs my attention, too. When I am not paying any attention to my son (well, I am paying attention, just not like he wants me to) he becomes irritated and bossy. He also interupts my husband and I as soon as we start talking. What am I not doing? Or what am I doing too much of?

]]> http://parenting.eharmony.com/2007/06/a-battle-with-a-five-year-old/comment-page-1/#comment-256 Susan Wed, 26 Sep 2007 05:03:59 +0000 http://parenting.eharmony.com/2007/06/a-battle-with-a-five-year-old/#comment-256 I have been going through the same problem with my 7 year old for the last couple of weeks. I finally stopped battling with her because it just kept getting worse and worse and just too exhausting. I figured that she may just want some attention, so this weekend that's what we did. We did some scrapbooking, karaoke and crazy dancing etc. Monday was wonderful I didn't have to argue about doing homework. She said "If I do my homework then can we play badmitten outside?" I said sure and that's what we did. We laughed, got a little excercise, and just had fun. I think that helped both of us ease up a little and feel better. And I didn't have to yell or repeat myself all night. It's like her hearing all of a sudden improved overnight. Today was just as good. She read to me for her homework (I didn't even have to ask twice) and then we played a board game. Kids want your attention and they will get it in a good way or a bad way. It's just a lot nicer when it is good attention (for the both of you). I have been going through the same problem with my 7 year old for the last couple of weeks. I finally stopped battling with her because it just kept getting worse and worse and just too exhausting. I figured that she may just want some attention, so this weekend that’s what we did. We did some scrapbooking, karaoke and crazy dancing etc. Monday was wonderful I didn’t have to argue about doing homework. She said “If I do my homework then can we play badmitten outside?” I said sure and that’s what we did. We laughed, got a little excercise, and just had fun. I think that helped both of us ease up a little and feel better. And I didn’t have to yell or repeat myself all night. It’s like her hearing all of a sudden improved overnight. Today was just as good. She read to me for her homework (I didn’t even have to ask twice) and then we played a board game. Kids want your attention and they will get it in a good way or a bad way. It’s just a lot nicer when it is good attention (for the both of you).

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